1. Send a card for no reason–another cliché? Maybe, but everyone likes to receive a nice “I love you” or “I miss you” notes every once in a while.
2. Listen–this could be the most important one ever, but note that you should listen with empathy and not just hear what they are saying; you should get involved.
3. Encourage–positive support and being there for one another is also very important; seek their support and give them yours and be generous!
4. Do it his or her way–sometimes; you need to do things their way just to show how much you love them and respect their feelings.
5. Know his or her needs–what good is a spouse if he/she does not know the needs of their significant others? This should be your primary concern!
6. Give gifts–nice small gifts are appreciated every once in a while.
7. Touch–intimacy between married people is very important and touching is a means of communication that reflects closeness, connection and love; it is your way of keeping the spark alive.
8. Talk about dreams–dreams of the future that is; if you don‘t share your dreams with your spouse; then who?
9. Select a song that can be “our song” —— this sounds like a cliché, but it can be nice, don‘t you think?
10. Laugh together–laughter is medicine. When you share good laughs together; the fun grows in the relationship and you grow closer and stronger every day.
11. Start each day withI think this one is not that hard; on the contrary; it can be healthy and nice.
12. Date once a week–May not as often as once a week, let‘s say every other week or that a date can be inside your home and that you don‘t have to go somewhere fancy to have it, you get the idea, right?
13. Accept differences–No one is perfect. However; healthy arguments are good for the relationship, hence; the most important thing would be learning how to compromise with one another.
14. Be polite–Please, thank you, you are welcome… these are not only meant for strangers; your own spouse and family should come first and you must always use these phrases inside your home.
15. Be gentle–a person is supposed to be the closest to his/her spouse, being gentle is crucial to keep them close enough.
16. Admit when wrong–don‘t be too arrogant to say it.
17. End the day with a hug–show closeness and again; intimacy.
18. Cuddle–yes; intimacy is very important and reflects love and deep feelings.
19. Show respect–showing respect is more important than showing love.
20. Welcome the other person home–show enthusiasm when they come home and greet them; this means that you are happy because they are home now and that you were waiting for them!
21. Celebrate birthdays in a big way–this does not mean a big party; just show them you care about their personal occasions.
22. Forgive–from the heart and not only in words.
23. Set up a romantic getaway–this sounds like fun every once in a while; no harm in that!
24. Respond quickly to the other person‘s request–show them that you are doing this because you care for them the most.
25. Treat each others‘ friends and relatives with courtesy–even if you don‘t like their family and/or friends, you treat them with respect and courtesy for the sake of your spouse; they deserve that much.
26. Compliment twice a day–everyone likes to hear something nice as a compliment; so give them that when it is due.
27. Call during the day–but don‘t over do it and be obsessed with calling him/her. Give them their space but also show them that you think of them by a 2-minutes phone call saying “how are you doing?”
翻譯：
1.沒什么緣由地送張卡片——又很老套嗎？不過誰不喜歡時不時地收到些“我愛你”，“我想你”之類的卡片呢？
2.聆聽——這非常重要，但注意聆聽的時候你應該全情投入并參與其中，而不僅僅只是聽到了對方說的話。
3.鼓勵——彼此支持是非常重要的。向對方尋求支持并慷慨地給予對方支持！
4.按照對方喜歡的方式行事——有時候，你可以按照對方喜歡的方式行事，并以此來傳達你對伴侶的愛戀和尊重。
5.知道對方的需求——如果不知道另一半的需要，那還算什么好伴侶？這一點是首先需要留心的。
6.給對方送禮物——偶爾送些甜蜜小禮物，就能令對方感激不盡。
7.撫觸——情侶間的撫觸非常重要，它可以增進情感，傳達愛意。它是情感交流的一種方式，它可以讓愛的火花常燃不熄。
8.談論夢想——說說對未來的憧憬。試想，若不和伴侶分享你的夢想，那么還能同誰講呢？
9.選一首歌作為“你倆的歌”——聽起來有點老套，但是不是很美妙？
10.一起開懷大笑——笑是良藥。當你倆一起開懷的時候，你們的關系也會伴隨著笑聲一天天地親近和堅固起來。
11.用一個吻迎接新的一天。接吻如此簡單，卻能令人身心愉悅。
12. 一周約會一次。也不必非得一周一次，也可以兩周一次。而且約會的地點可以在家中，不必非去什么特別的地方。你是不是明白了？有心就好。
13.接受彼此的不同，因為人無完人。適度的爭論可以增進雙方的關系，但重要的是要在爭論中懂得妥協。
14.多用禮貌用語。請、謝謝、不客氣這些話不只要說給陌生人聽，更要說給你的伴侶和家人聽。在家里要記得多用這些客氣話。
15.溫柔一些——若想關系親密，溫柔是至關重要的。
16有錯的時候認錯——不要自負到拒絕認錯。
17用擁抱結束一天的生活——再次用親昵的行為表達親密的關系。
18.擁抱——是的，親昵的行為可以傳達愛意，增進情感。
19.尊重對方——顯示你的尊重比表達愛意更加重要。
20.歡迎另一半回家——熱情地歡迎你的伴侶回家。讓他們感受到你的期盼和你的快樂。
21.隆重慶生——并不是說你要為對方的生日大操大辦，而是說你要傳遞出你很重視這個特別日子的信息。
22.寬恕——自心底而不是嘴上說聲原諒。
23. 策劃一次浪漫出游——時不時搞一次，其樂無窮，完全沒有副作用！
24. 快速響應對方的需求——這樣做就是為了顯示你有多么在意對方。
25.善待對方的朋友和親屬——即便你不喜歡伴侶的朋友和親屬，為了你的伴侶，你也要善待他們。
26.每天互相恭維兩次——人人都愛聽恭維話，所以在適當的時候說些好話。
27. 打通電話——不要總是給對方打電話。給他們一些空間的同時，打個簡短的問候電話，讓他們了解你的惦念。
